the big DOOP / enfj

Only relatively defined by physics!  
What I remember most about emotional abuse is that it’s like being put in a box. How you end up in there is the biggest trick – I never managed to work that one out. Maybe you think it’s a treasure box at first: you’re in there because you’re special. Soon the box starts to shrink. Every time you touch the edges there is an “argument”. So you try to make yourself fit. You curl up, become smaller, quieter, remove the excessive, offensive parts of your personality – you begin to notice lots of these. You eliminate people and interests, change your behaviour. But still the box gets smaller. You think it’s your fault. The terrible, unforgivable too-muchness of you is to blame. You don’t realise that the box is shrinking, or who is making it smaller. You don’t yet understand that you will never, ever be tiny enough to fit, or silent enough to avoid a row

It’s time to make emotional abuse a crime - Lauren Laverne (via ninja-suffragette)

holy fucking shit this exactly what happened to me

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notpetewentz:

this man is an actual legend

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fallen-angel-nightshade:

nonbinaryanders:

justsomefuckingguy:

captcreate:

odditymall:

The Leatherdos is a hair clip that doubles as a multi-tool that combines 5 different tools in a tiny hair clip: screw-drivers, a wrench, a trolley coin, a ruler, and a cutting edge.

—->http://odditymall.com/leatherdos-is-a-hair-clip-multi-tool

This some of that James Bond shit.

Swiss Army Hairclip

Imagine you get kidnapped or some shit, how useful that might be?

FINALLY!!!

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lewstonewar:

cptsassrogers:

kerfuffleoftails:

疾速k

therealdeepsix

*just leaves this here*

I think this is the first time someone has been drawn/painted in this style and it still looked like the actual person and not a cartoon or doll. I did not realize Sebastian Stan is a real life version of this aesthetic.

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1337tattoos:

scady tattoo

dat how you fuckin do tattoo

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foxmuldervampirehunter:

It’s easy to be abusive when you’re carrying around past abuse; when you’re so invested in being a good person that someone saying “this thing you did was just awful” threatens your whole sense of self; when you think abusers are the scum of the earth and everything would be great if we could just set every one of them on fire. In short, when no one can confront you about the ways you’re being used by oppressive structures, you’re part of the problem. If you think being hijacked by ingrained cultural programming is something that only happens to bad, unenlightened people, you don’t notice when it’s happening to you. And you don’t have the emotional resources to cope with the realization that … sometimes you’re going to fuck up royally and other people will be hurt, and they won’t have the slightest obligation to forgive you. Because you know what? That happens. 

Part of being the hero of your own story is owning up to the fact that sometimes you aren’t heroic at all, and apologizing, and changing, no matter how painful and hard that is. 

a snippet from the comment chain of this post (cw for discussion of abuse) that i found particularly resonate

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talkacanthi:

Im supposed to be updating my resumé and fill out job apps but Im just watching The Office and reblogging pictures of naked cats nect to uncooked chickens

get your fucking life together man